If you make a donation to the Diocese this year, you will notice your tax receipt speaks to the integral part of stewardship to our faith.
Biblical stewardship is more than giving of time, talent and treasure. “True generosity has no limits. When we say that mature disciples are to answer the call of Jesus Christ regardless of the cost, we are inviting good stewards to embody this type of generosity. We can be the person who does not respond to the call, be the person who responds and gives what is required, or finally, be the person who seeks to give above and beyond what is required. God doesn’t just give us what we need, but He gives us more than we need. Made in His image, we are called to do the same. If we try to live in this manner every day, then we might just succeed on leaving this world a little better than the way we found it” [Tracy Earl Welliver, Catholic Stewardship Coach].
At the core of all the charitable work we as Catholics engage in is a desire to live Christian stewardship in all we do, striving to make the world a better place. Each parish has elements of community outreach; many parishioners volunteer with or donate to their favourite charity. At a diocesan level, the Together in Action (TIA) Granting Program is one very tangible way in which our efforts to make the world a little better can be measured. We wanted to share a story with you in celebration of your generous giving to TIA and to encourage all of us to find other ways to make a difference in our communities around southern Alberta.
This year, Catholic Family Service (CFS) is celebrating 60 years of providing for the needs of people in Calgary and the surrounding area. The Diocese is honoured to partner with this amazing organization through the TIA granting program and this year marks 20 years of support of CFS’s Family & Schools Together (F&ST) program. This ground-breaking program, recognized by the United Nations, has connected families with their schools and communities since 1996. Recognizing that feeling connected and being part of a community has a big impact on our quality of life, the program works to give parents the support they need to be positive role models within their family and the community. Parents are empowered through education, group sessions and mentoring to: be leaders and role models for their family; be involved in their child’s school; and ensure their children are healthy and thriving both socially and academically.
We know that the ties that bind and make us strong go beyond just our immediate families. Relationships with friends and neighbours, schools, teachers, coaches, etc. are just as important to our health and well-being. Knowing we are not alone in our life journey can make all the difference. As one program parent explained it:
Our family enjoys every component of F&ST! My husband and I especially like being in Parent Group and find it very helpful to talk with other parents who are facing the same challenges as us. Each week our family is becoming more and more connected through F&ST. Our house is calmer after the program, my stress levels are reduced and we have started opening up our communication at home.
We all have gifts and talents that we can share by volunteering in our local communities with organizations like CFS. And by supporting TIA with your contributions, you are helping CFS and more than 40 other charities locally and internationally help make the world a better place! Thank you for working Together in Action with your fellow Catholics.
As part of our Diocesan mission and obedience to the words of our Lord to “Feed my lambs, feed my sheep,” Together in Action granted “good gifts” of funding to many amazing organizations across southern Alberta in 2016. In Lethbridge, we granted to the Interfaith Food Bank Society, run almost entirely by volunteers. Each year, more than 100 volunteers come through their door to give “good gifts” of time to the lives of the food bank’s clients. Many of them are passionately committed, serving regularly, often several times a month. Staff are committed to giving their volunteers a positive experience. Funds from Together in Action ensure they have a quality volunteer program. This commitment promotes long term volunteer retention and helps manage organizational costs effectively.
A bit farther north, in Airdrie, Deacon Gary Haney works with St. Dismas Prison Ministries. This organization works with an extremely marginalized population – recently released inmates. Together in Action funds the organization’s Let’s Journey Together Program. Volunteers with this organization give “good gifts” of circles of support around released inmates, helping them transition back into the community. The connections built within these circles anchor these vulnerable individuals to stability, acceptance and often, housing and employment. Deacon Gary Haney loves to tell the story of this organization and passionately believes in the work.
Do you or your parish support a charity that you are passionate about? Do you have an organization that you love and give the “good gifts” of your time or money to? We’d love to hear from you! Connect with us to tell us about it! If we feel it’s a good fit for the Together in Action Granting Program, we will solicit an application from the charity. After that, it will be up to the committee and the Bishop. As the donors who make Together in Action possible, we believe you have a voice in suggesting the spread of “good gifts.” Contact the Charities & Development Office at (403) 218-5534 for more information or to get the nomination form.
The Roman Catholic Diocese of Calgary is honoured to partner with Blue Sea Philanthropy, KAIROS Calgary and the Mustard Seed to host Coldest Night of the Year.
The Coldest Night of the Year is a non-competitive 2, 5, and 10km winter-walk happening in more than 90 communities across Canada. Charities in each community raise funds and awareness in support of individuals experiencing hunger, homelessness and hurt.
2016 Giving Deadlines
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Merry Christmas from The Catholic Pastoral Centre.
From the beginning of creation, God's beautiful plan for human love was inscribed on the human heart and in the human body, "Male and female he created them" (Gen. 1:27)
God created the human person, male and female, in his image and likeness, as the crown of creation. Everyone of us is a gift with the inviolable dignity of a person. We can all echo the words of the Psalmist: "I praise you, because I am wonderfully made; wonderful are your works!" (Psalm 139:14)
As an expression of how wonderfully different and amazing we really are - consider the entries of a husband and wife in their respective diaries.
Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn't flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn't say much. I asked him what was wrong; He said, "nothing."
I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn't upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it. On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can't explain his behaviour. I don't know why he didn't say, "I love you, too." When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent.
Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep; I cried. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.
A two-foot putt...who the hell misses a two-foot putt?
The body expresses the person. It expresses in a visible way one's invisible soul and manifests one's masculine or feminine identity.
Pope St. John Paul II often referred to the "spousal meaning of the body." He taught that the body, in its masculinity or femininity, is inscribed with its own language - a language of gift and of communion of persons. Our bodies tell us that we come from another. We are not self-made or fundamentally isolated. Instead, we are each a son or a daughter.
We are in relation to others from the beginning of our existence, first to our mother and father, and through them to the entire human family. Our bodies tell us that we are "for" another, that we have the capacity for fruitful communion with another, in particular with a person of the opposite sex if called to marriage.
Written in our bodies is a call to spousal, fruitful love. In giving ourselves in love, we fulfill the meaning of our existence: "Man cannot fully find himself except through a sincere gift of himself."
Because of the beautiful meaning and dignity communicated by our bodies - which communicate our very selves - our bodies should be treated with the greatest respect. We, and therefore our bodies, are not meant to be "used" but "loved."
St. John Paull II taught that the opposite of love is not hate but rather using a person, as if he or she were an object. To love others is to recognize them as the gift they are, to seek what is truly good and best for them, and never to use them and thereby objectify them as something less than persons. The body, then, is not raw, biological matter open to manipulation, but is rather inseparable from who we are.
As Pope Francis has emphasized, "Learning to accept our body, to care for it and to respect its fullest meaning, is an essential element of any genuine human ecology."
I would like to share some of Laura's story, not hear real name, -
I was working at a movie theatre during high school. While I was working there, I met the 40-year-old projectionist. After hearing about my love for music, he approached me, offering free guitar lessons. Being in high school with no money, I was ecstatic and quickly accepted, not thinking anything of it.
During these lessons he told me things every girl wants to hear. "I love spending time with you," "you're beautiful," etc. As these lessons continued, we started a romantic relationship. Eventually, I was kicked out of my house for bad behaviour. As I was still in high school, I have nowhere to go, so the 40-year-old man said I should just come live with him.
In my head we were dating, so I saw nothing wrong with it. Based on the relationships I had seen as a child, this seemed normal.
In the beginning of living with him, nothing out of the norm happened. After a few months passed, he asked me to be a part of his "art project," and to be his number one model! Without any hesitation, I eagerly accepted and the "art project" began. The photos were innocent in the beginning and later became more sexual. I was forced to do unthinkable things. He monitored where I was and isolated me from my friends.
After a year and a half, he began talking about engagement. I made it a goal to leave, since I did not want to marry him. Eventually an opportunity arrived, and I was able to escape to live with a friend.
Laura's story is a sanitized modern day story about human trafficking and sex slavery. So frequently hidden, out of sight and not talked about, the physical, economic, sexual and psychological exploitation of men and women, boys and girls, which currently holds tens of millions in inhumane and humiliating bondage.
It is a reality which affects the most vulnerable in society: women of all ages, children, the handicapped, the poorest, and those from broken families and from difficult situations in society.
Our common humanity calls us to share our compassion for their sufferings and strive to liberate them and alleviate their wounds. We cannot continue to allow these women, men, and children to be treated like objects, to be deceived, raped, often sold and resold for various purposes, and in the end, either killed or left devastated in mind and body, only to be thrown away or abandoned.
In order to achieve positive results, our efforts must not be restricted to human rights legislation and various forms of government action to ensure the safety of victims, and to prevent criminals from escaping justice.
We need to look at our culture and our communications and examine our consciences. How many times have we permitted a human being to be seen as an object, to be put on show in order to sell a product or to satisfy an immoral desire? The human person ought never to be sold or bought as if he or she were a commodity. Whoever uses human persons in this way and exploits them, even if indirectly, becomes an accomplice of this injustice.
In his 2014 Lenten message, Pope Francis noted, "How much pain is caused in families because one of their memebers - often a young person - is in thrall to alcohol, drugs, gambling, or pornography."
Parents today face increasing challenges in protecting their children's innocence. Pornography can enter the home through a variety of doors. The most obvious is media and technology, which includes not only computers , tablets, and mobile phones, but also video games connected to the Internet.
Young people born in the digital age have grown up immersed in media and the Internet, and many times are savvier at navigating this world than their parents. Since it is estimated that the average age of first exposure to pornography is eleven, many children exposed to pornography are even younger. Almost all young males and over half of all young females see pornography before age eighteen, often accidentally, such as finding a family member's "stash" or happening upon a pornogrpahic website through a pop-up ad or typo. Other times a child may search online for a term he or she heard and did not understand, or intentionally search for online pornogrpahy out of curiosity. Sex education curriculums may treat pornogrpahy as neutral or even good, in some cases even using it as a "teaching tool." Children and teens experience pressure from peers and even family members to look at pornography. More and more, young people produce their own pornography, in the form of sexual photographs or videos shared with peers. "Sexting" is associated with other risky sexual behaviours, charges of child pornography, and tragically has even led to suicide when the image is shared with unintended recipients.
The use of pornography by anyone in the home deprives the home of its role as a safe haven and has negative effects throughout a family's life and across generations. Fatherhood is gravely impacted because a son will look to his father as a model, and a daughter will to her father to understand how a man should treat a woman.
I am going to make five practical suggestions for parents culled from parental testimonies and insights, from other experts in the field and from ex-users of pornography.
- Integrated approach. Steer away from "The Talk," the birds and the bees approach, towards a more integrated approach. Having "The Talk" relies on the misguided notion that parents have educational content or factual knowledge that they are duty-bound to try to deposit into their children's brains. This approach is not only awkward and paternalistic, but can convey a sense that sexual education is a one-time, get-it-over-with ordeal. Kids require ongoing guidance and support from their parents - an expressed willingness to enter into these important discussions that stress the beauty of sexuality in marriage and what it is really for, rather than just telling them what not to do or scaring them away from sexually-transmitted diseases.
- Be attentive to opportune moments to share wisdom and stories. Because we live in a highly pornified culture, opportunities for parents to share and discuss important value assessments regarding human sexuality with their children arise often. Driving by a billboard with a risque picture or seeing something on TV might, for example, serve as an opportunity to note how it's against the love of women to use them as sex objects. Passing through a part of town where prostitutes are plying their trade might spark a discussion about how many women involved in prostitution are victims of human trafficking and the vast majority wish they could break free of it, etc.
- Regulating internet access. Avoid internet accesss in the bedroom. Sometimes parents will say, "The kids have access at school and everywhere else, so I let them have unrestricted access at home - they've got to learn how to handle it anyway." But the home setting needs to differ from the outside world, serving as an oasis and a protected environment for children. If someone offered to install a pipe into your child's bedroom that could be turned on to pump in raw sewage, you would not agree to it. Yet many parents fail to restrict what is entering their children's bedrooms through the internet and TV.
- Monitor internet usage. Check browser history and make use of monitoring software, even though a particular child may be an angel. Keep the family computer in a shared space like the living room with the screen visible so family members can be aware of each other's online activities. Laptops and tablets can pose an inadvertent temptation in this respect as teens sit cuddled up on the couch with screens not visible to others. In family life, we are called to serve as our brother's keeper. Set limits on "screen time" for children and maintain password/access control over devices. Have the neughbour's kids deposit their electronic devices on the kitchen table during visits to diminish the temptation to slip away to a private part of the house and surf the net, perhaps with younger siblings in tow. Such practices may also serve to indirectly evangelize other families in the neghbourhood regarding the serious threats from internet porn.
- Set appropriate rules regarding relationships and be involved in the kids' dating practices. Too often, parents are tempted to take a "hands-off" approach to this area of their children's lives. Setting appropriate rules for kids serves as a sign of a parent's love and concern for them. Whenever parents determine that dating should begin, it offers further opportunities and occasions to discuss problems and scenarios that can help teens set moral boundaries. Talking to kids and helping them to become good stewards of the gift of human sexuality bestowed by God is hard work. In a culture that forcefully communicates a pornified counter-gospel, though, it is certainly one of the most important and enduring gifts a parent can seek to provide for the happiness and well-being of their children.
Pope Francis reminded the Church of her calling to become a "field hospital" for the wounded of the world. All of us are wounded, starting with Original Sin and its consequences as well as our own sins. In the wake of the so-called sexual revolution, many have been hurt by their own sins, the sins of others, confusion, and broken relationships and families. In particular, the effects of pornography on the soul can be deep. However, no wound is so deep that as to be out of the reach of Christ's redeeming grace.
We as church, as a field hospital, are called to proclaim the truth of the human person in love, to protect people - especially children - from pornography, and to provide the Lord's mercy and healing for those wounded by pornography. Ultimately, Christ is our hope!
Love you sweetheart
A group of women were at a seminar on how to live in a loving relationship with their husbands. The women were asked, "How many of you love your husband?" All the women raised their hands.
Then they were asked, "When was the last time you told your husband you loved him?" Some women answered today, a few yesterday, and some couldn't remember. The women were then told to take out their cell phones and text their husband: "I love you."
Next, the women were instructed to exchange phones with another woman, and read aloud the text message she received in response to her message.
Here are 9 replies. If you have been married for quite a while, you understand that these responses are a sign of true love...who else would reply in such a succinct and honest way:
- Who the hell is this?
- Eh, mother of my children, are you sick or what
- Yeah, and I love you too. What's wrong?
- What now? Did you wreck the car again?
- Don't beat about the bush, just tell me how much you need?
- Am I dreaming?
- If you don't tell me who this message is actually for, someone will die
- I thought we agreed you woudn't drink during the day
- Your mother is coming to stay with us, isn't she?
Kinda tugs at the heart, doesn't it?
"Create in Me a Clean Heart"
☩ F. B. Henry
Bishop of Calgary